Feb 17, 2010

Watching the world go by. The facebook dilemma, who to friend?

Glad to have survived a long day at work. Net achievement not very much for a lot of running around and fussing. I'm over caffeinated and really need to rebalance and stretch. I can feel the tension building in my shoulders. It may be backbends tonight. I may get my wish.

I've found a little park down the road from yoga to just sit down and chill. It's nice just sitting and being. The sun feels glorious on my skin. There's a breeze and the chirping of birds.

What does this all have to do with facebook?  How could thoughts of facebook corrupt such a beautiful and private moment?

I got a friend request from one of my in-laws.   What is the etiquette for facebook and older family members?  I love my family dearly and nothing on my facebook would be in any way disrespectful to them.

But.  Not sure if it's would be a good idea. I like keeping facebook as a place to say whatever comes to mind - just me and cybserspace. It's a little bit quirky, a little bit sarcastic and often very irreverent. The times I have posted under the influence of many emotions and the occasional substance.

What are the options?
  1. Accept and keep on being me.
  2. Accept and filter who gets my status updates.
  3. Remain ignorant of the invite. 
  4. Figure that a white head on a blue background could be anyone and be overly cautious and not accept the invite.
  5. Not think too hard.

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  1. Ugh, I hate it when relatives do friend requests. Its hard to figure out a way to casually ignore they ever sent them.

  2. It really is a whole can of worms, isn't it. There's ethics, etiquette, the right to expressing personal opinions freely. I am home from yoga and none the clearer as to what to do. I think ignorance will be the way to go.

  3. Ahh. Have just frittered away valuable sleep time reading your entire blog. I love it and have 'Followed' you accordingly. You're a lady after my own heart.

  4. I understand your point. I have some friends, relatives and non-relatives, who sometimes make me wonder if I should censor my Facebook just ever so slightly. I recently deleted my aunt. Oh dear.

    For now, I have a created a list of certain friends whom I want to block from certain posts, uploads, etc.

  5. cat - high praise indeed, thank you.

    Su - good idea. Will have to do the same.

  6. I've had relative requests and I've accepted them. Granted they're just my cousins but I don't mind them reading what I say/do. I think they think I'm strange anyway :P

  7. I contemplate this dilemma often....I used to love putting frequent status updates on FB...but a certain couple who are close friends ofinestarted "judging" my posts and making it clear that f taken put of context, others who didn't know me as well would assume things or judge me. So now I barely update status and worry that I am too exposed being on FB at all. I feel like I want to "defriend" a whole bunch of people to be left only with those friends who I think use and view FB in the same way as I do. But then i became anxious about the "defriending" dilemma......all in all I've lost too much timebeing anxious about it!! Let me k ow what you decide! Xx

  8. Hello S!!

    Thank you for stopping by.

    I have ended up accepting the request but with limited access to my profile - so no wall posts visible. It is also possible to set your wall post default option so that certatin people not see it on your wall.

    Hope this is of help :-)



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