May 21, 2018

Life This Week 21/5/2018: My Biggest Fear.

My biggest fear is change.

I'm one of those people who tends to take the negative view on change. To me, change is losing what I have and know.  A new car means losing a car whose quirks I know and whose size is so familiar I can park it without my blood pressure rising.  Getting older means having to take those niggles a little more seriously and looking a little less closely at myself in the mirror. It also means that those you love are getting older too.  Don't get me started on that tine all the bus routes changed or when everything at work went paperless....

I've reached an incredibly blessed stage of life where I have so much.  Love, security, self identity, purpose, good health, self awareness and self confidence.  On the self confidence, perhaps it's more 'who cares what everyone else thinks?  They're all preoccupied with their own lives.

It's an irrational fear and also a fear I need to release because life is change.  Whether I like it or not, change is a constant I can do nothing to stop.

When I look back at the changes I hated most, much of the pain surrounded the uncertainty of what to expect once the change had taken place.  Then whatever had to change did so and I somehow survived. 

The 'somehow' involved acceptance and then the desire to just get on with it.  Both powerful motivators when faced with change.

Looking forward, what I plan to do when faced with change is to be brave and embrace it.  To be open to all the possibilities that change can hold.  A life without change can be a boring one and a life trying to fight change on all fronts can be draining. 

Do you fear change? 


  1. This is very similar to Denyse -she said control You both seem to know exactly what makes you tick. Good post.

  2. I absolutely don't fear change - but I do fear the lack of control that change & uncertainty brings... I tend to want to hurry the change up - & that's usually when the trouble starts...Have a great week.

  3. Happy Monday SSG! I don't think you are alone with your fear of change because it really is the fear of the unknown. The thing is if we open our minds to change, most of the time wonderful and magical things can happen. Have a great week!

  4. Some change can be welcome, but other change can be stressful - I think, like you said, it all depends on how you handle it and it you are worried or unsure about it. I think being a mother has helped me accept change better, kids are always changing and life has to change around them also! :)

  5. I like that you choose to be open to all the possibilities that change can hold. No, I don't fear change. I intentionally initiate small changes in my life and document them on my blog under the label "a new whirl".

  6. Haha funny you mention parking a car of a new size!! That's where I'm at right now. I don't like change but I've had so much of it in my life I think I cope a lot better (or at least power through, knowing it ends).

  7. I used to hate change when I was younger. Now I mostly welcome changes and even feel excited by them. I don’t like smaller more bothersome changes though - like political ones!

  8. Interesting to read this and our similarities. I too hated change, particularly in the workplace, because it would often mean so.much.stuff. to learn and it would not necessarily make things better. In fact, we in NSW Dept of Ed faced sooooo many changes from 1990 onward (yes a long time ago) that we sort of became used to it. Until then we were managed by educators and then the NSW Education Act saw the change to being controlled by the policies of the political party of the day. Oh the stories I could tell. Similar for you in your profession I imagine!!

    Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 21/52. Next week's optional prompt is "How Did My Blog Start"


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